Withdrawing 25
Forcing 18
Smoothing 30
Compromising 25
Problem Solving 29
This means that I use the Smoothing strategy the most and Forcing strategy the least. We didn't go over the 2nd handout in class but I looked through it and it seems like I'm The Teddy Bear. I'm pretty happy with my results because I DO think relationships are important.
Shiho, Yuca, Take and I discussed the following questions:
1: How has a group you have been in managed conflict? Negatively, or positively?
2: How do you feel about conflict? Are you conflict comfortable, or conflict uncomfortable?
1: Most of the examples that were brought up were about being in a sports team and conflict was negatively managed so I was thinking of an example that was managed positively. In junior high, I had a close group of friends. We fought but instead of ignoring each other we would wait a few days to cool down and talk about it because we still cared for each other. I think this was an example of a positively managed way because we could tell each other what we felt face to face. Because of this we learned how to keep and build our relationship. We're still close to this day and I can talk to them about anything.
2: Like the example above, I tend to talk about what I feel and my thoughts openly so I guess I would be conflict comfortable. But on the other hand, I've come to realize that being conflict comfortable is bad at times. Sometimes in a conflict you shouldn't always say something it might just make things worse. In my personal experience when a conflict comfortable person argues with a conflict comfortable person things could go bad. Really Bad. So I think its okay that people are conflict comfortable or uncomfortable, but people need to know when to speak up or when not to say anything.
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I agree with your statement at the end. There are times when a person needs to take a deep breath, become the adult in the situation and back off. But in the past, I have always been able to solve my conflicts by talking it through and listening to their side of the story. It can get really hard sometimes but I think when you fight with your best friends, you know that you want to get back together with them so you are able to see things from their point of view without much trouble. Sometimes I get over-worried about things that I say (because I am a conflict comfortable person as well) and tend to say things exactly the way I feel... I guess I need to work on that haha;)
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